The Triangle, which line do you follow?

I have been having an emotional crisis which leads to self investigation and discovery. What, prey tell, is my crisis? It's the obsession of the great happy life, the perfect triangle. It can be argued that one is always searching for the best of three things: the perfect significant other, the perfect place to live and the perfect job. Why, when two of those things actually do fit into our idea of perfect do we obsesses over the one thing that isn't quite right?

Can all of those three ever be in perfect tandem anyway? I called one of my girlfriends last night to lament about my current sadness with one leg of the triangle. I know that crying and complaining only makes one a victim and to really find the route to happiness you have to take back control and do something about your situation. It's hard to do so when you are stuck in the situation and everywhere you turn seems bleak and dreary. My girlfriend, commiserating with me told me that she felt that every leg of her triangle was broken, not one of those things she was happy with. It got me thinking that maybe I don't have it so bad.

Then I started to wonder if one of the legs could be more important than the other two. If that is case then maybe, just maybe, if you are truly happy with that one leg that you hold to be the most dear then it can make up for the other leg or other two legs that you aren't truly satisfied with. Then again if that one leg isn't meeting your needs then it can cause the whole thing to come tumbling down, conceivably destroying the other two legs in the process.

So how to fix the problem? Being proactive is an easier proposition that’s said than done, I think. What if you don't have the perfect significant other? How then to go about finding one that truly fits you? Going to a bar can be disastrous. It seems to me that meeting someone you meet at a bar can only lead to a one night stand or maybe an interesting yet casual conversation. If you take that person home that night it seems unlikely that a lasting and respectful relationship can be forged through it though there have been exceptions of course. Dating websites are an entertaining idea though many people find them to be pathetic or a last resort. I don't know what my feelings are on those websites. Going through friends is probably the best option because it's like an off handed reference of sorts. However, if it doesn't work out or their recommendation is no good it can jeopardize your friendship with that person, not to mention the awkward failed attempt at a set up or blind date you have to experience in the process.

Finding a perfect apartment in this market might be the easiest plan. Many people are selling or renting out spaces and a lot of times they are furnished in neighborhoods that would normally run hundreds of dollars more in a different financial climate. The idea of moving out all of your stuff could be pretty daunting and going from apartment to apartment to look for places requires a lot of patience and real estate knowledge. However, with enough research and some time to spare perfection in this leg might be easily attained.

Finally, finding the perfect job is a life long search in any climate but in this economy it seems next to impossible. People who don't have jobs are looking for anything they can get and people who do are too scared to give them up for fear they might never find one again. Those who are in a job they love in this market might be the luckiest people out there. I believe that this leg of the triangle holds a lot of weight because as Americans, capitalist, no less, we spend so many hours of our lives doing our jobs just to thrive and do things that we love outside of those jobs. It can be very rewarding or very grueling. What do you do when you don't have the perfect job or don't know what the perfect job is?

I guess, however that question is a question to relate to all three of these legs? What is perfect? In one of the very first episodes of Sex and the City (yes, Sex and the City) Mr. Big (the main male protagonist) is talking to Cary (the show's narrator) about dating models and how there are so many beautiful women in NYC, how do you know which ones are models? All this invariably leading up to the question of perfection and is beauty the true idea of a perfect mate. Mr. Big quickly negates this thought and says "At the end of the day you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh." And while it might be hard to see how this can apply to all these legs I think it is an important thought. At the end of the day we just want to laugh and be happy so do whatever it takes to make that triangle as straight and complete as you can.